Last Updated on January 13, 2025 by Angela Vaz
I get it.
Valentine’s Day often comes with societal pressure to spend the day in a romantic relationship, but the truth is love, can take so many forms—and self-love is one of the most beautiful and empowering forms there is.
As a single woman, you have the opportunity to celebrate yourself, create your own joy, and make Valentine’s Day about everything that makes you happy.
No, it’s not silly.
I remember a Valentine’s Day a few years ago when I decided to spend it entirely on my own terms because I was single.
Instead of feeling sad or left out, I turned it into a day of indulgence and discovery.
I started with a long morning walk, bought myself a bouquet of fresh flowers, and treated myself to a decadent dinner at a cozy restaurant I’d been wanting to try.
I spent the night reading a scary book that was super immersive and fun!
It wasn’t just a day—it was an experience, a reminder that I am enough.
So, whether you’re embracing your independence, recharging your energy, or simply enjoying your own company, here are 45 ways to make Valentine’s Day special, memorable, and entirely yours.
1. Have a Spa Day at Home
Transform your bathroom into a luxurious spa.
Light candles, play calming music and treat yourself to a face mask, a bubble bath, and a mani-pedi.
Where I stay, we can place a request online and people will come home and give you a spa session.
2. Write a Love Letter to Yourself
Reflect on everything you admire about yourself. Write down moments that you’re super proud of and talk about your goals for the next few months. Talk about what you’re working on.
I have a post on how to write a future letter to yourself here.
Write it down in a heartfelt letter and keep it as a reminder of your self-worth.
3. Cook Your Favorite Meal
Experiment with a new recipe or make your favorite dish.
I love lasagne and it’s a big dish to prepare – so I love spending the whole morning gathering ingredients and just working on all the different sauces individually while using my whole kitchen.
Or if you want something simple, just make a plate of some delicious pasta!
Set the table with candles and enjoy a delicious meal made with love—for you.
4. Take Yourself on a Solo Movie Date
Go to the cinema or stay home and watch a movie you’ve been wanting to see. Pick something that makes you laugh, cry, or feel inspired.
Or, be like me and watch a horror movie that will knock your socks off.
5. Buy Yourself Flowers
Head to the florist and pick out a beautiful bouquet.
Display it where you can see it often, and let it brighten your day.
6. Explore a New Hobby
Sign up for an online class or try something new, like painting, knitting, or learning a musical instrument.
I love going to Domestika and looking at online classes – they’re so cheap but they’re super detailed!
Let your creativity flow.
7. Go for a Long Walk in Nature
Find a nearby park or trail and spend time reconnecting with nature.
Listen to the birds, feel the breeze, and let the fresh air refresh you.
8. Have a Photoshoot
Put on your favorite outfit, do your hair and makeup, and have a mini photoshoot.
Celebrate your confidence and beauty.
You can also book someone to get it professionally done – this way you’ll have some professionally shot photos of yourself.
9. Declutter and Refresh Your Space
Take the day to tidy up and organize your home.
Maybe even do your closet?
I love taking the time to pack away clothes that are too tight or out of style and we have organizations that we can inform who will come and pick up the clothes themselves for a small fee.
Decluttering can be therapeutic, and it’ll leave you feeling accomplished and refreshed.
10. Treat Yourself to a Fancy Dessert
Buy or bake your favorite dessert and savor it guilt-free.
There are so many easy recipes on Youtube!
This is your day to indulge.
Maybe try your hand at baking cookies, a cake, or bread. The process is soothing, and the result is a delicious treat.
11. Create a Vision Board
Gather magazines, printouts, or Pinterest images and create a vision board for your dreams and goals.
Use this day to focus on your aspirations.
Maybe even draft a plan.
For instance, my goal this year is to get into the best shape of my life – so I’ve already started planning my meals, my workouts and I’ve been gathering so much inspiration to help me stay consistent!
12. Dance Like No One’s Watching
Turn up your favorite playlist and dance around your living room.
It’s a fun and liberating way to boost your mood.
13. Plan Your Dream Vacation
Research a destination you’ve always wanted to visit. It can be a nearby town as well! There is no need to book a flight.
Create an itinerary and start planning how you can make it happen.
Maybe even plan the trip with a few girl friends?
14. Try a New Workout Class
Join a yoga, Zumba, or Pilates class—either online or in person.
I highly suggest in-person because seeing other people dance motivates you to push your body even more!
Moving your body will leave you feeling energized and happy.
15. Read a Good Book
Curl up with a novel you’ve been wanting to read. I’m sure you have quite a few on your bookshelf that have been waiting for you to pick them up.
Let yourself get lost in another world for a few hours.
16. Volunteer for a Cause You Love
Spend the day helping others by volunteering at a shelter, food bank, or community organization.
A single girlfriend of mine always volunteers in dog shelters on days she’s free because she loves animals so, so much!
Giving back is a wonderful way to feel connected and fulfilled.
17. Treat Yourself to a Gift
Buy something you’ve had your eye on, whether it’s a piece of jewelry, a new gadget, or a cozy blanket.
Celebrate yourself.
18. Have a Picnic
Pack a basket with your favorite snacks and head to a park or even your backyard.
Enjoy the fresh air and the simple pleasure of a picnic.
You can go by yourself or go with another single friend.
19. Learn a New Skill Online
Take a course on something you’re curious about, like photography, cooking, or personal finance.
Use Valentine’s Day as a chance to invest in yourself.
20. Start Journaling
Begin a journal to document your thoughts, dreams, and gratitude.
Spend sometime buying a notebook that you really love.
Here are some notebook ideas incase you want to do other things with it!
Writing can be a powerful way to connect with yourself.
21. Create a Playlist
Curate a playlist of songs that make you feel empowered, happy, and loved.
Let it be your go-to soundtrack for the day.
I have so many playlists – one is a jazz instrumental list to listen to while I work. I also love carrying cafe music because this helps me feel like I’m in a cafe working.
22. Explore Your City
Visit a museum, coffee shop, or landmark you’ve never been to before.
Be a tourist in your own town and discover something new.
23. Watch the Sunset
If you live a fast-paced life, why not slow down?
It seems silly watching a sunset – but it’s one of the best ways to romanticize your life.
Take a moment to appreciate the beauty of nature by watching the sunset. It’s a peaceful way to end the day.
24. Host a Virtual Hangout
If you’re feeling social, plan a virtual call with friends or family.
Share stories, laugh, and enjoy each other’s company.
I did this with my single friends on one year and I had so much fun – we caught up and even played games like quizzes and charades – it was so much fun!
25. Do a Puzzle or Play a Game
Spend time with a puzzle, board game, or video game that you enjoy.
If you’re into gaming, this will be so much fun.
I love playing this horror single game called Final Girl – it’s 3-4 hours of horror and fun! – Not even kidding!
26. Meditate and Reflect
Take a few minutes to meditate and focus on your breath.
Reflect on your journey and everything you’re grateful for.
27. Treat Yourself to a Movie Marathon
Pick a theme or a favorite actor and watch a series of movies back-to-back. Make popcorn and turn your living room into a theater.
I love going on a Lord of the Rings or Stranger Things marathon.
28. Do Something Adventurous
Try something out of your comfort zone, like indoor rock climbing, horseback riding, or zip-lining.
Challenge yourself and create memories.
I once challenged myself to a trek (I hate the outdoors) but it was actually fun!
29 Have a Tea or Coffee Tasting
Try different types of tea or coffee and enjoy the variety of flavors. If you sign up for the meetup app (it’s free), you’ll see so many opportunities for tastings!
It’s a simple yet delightful way to spend the day.
30. Reconnect with an Old Friend
Reach out to someone you haven’t spoken to in a while. I have a long-time friend in Edinburgh who is doing her PhD and is super busy. So, once in a while, we plan a day when we can spend hours on the phone just catching up!
A meaningful conversation can brighten your day.
31. Have a Creative Day
Spend the day drawing, painting, or writing.
Let your creativity flow without judgment.
Go to a store and pick up the supplies – immerse yourself in the experience!
32. Explore Your Ancestry
Dive into your family history and learn more about your roots. I discovered that my dad’s grandfather was a police superintendent during the British rule – I also found out some cool stuff about him in old newspaper clippings.
It’s a fascinating way to connect with your past.
33. Practice Gratitude
Make a list of things you’re grateful for.
Focusing on the positives in your life can shift your perspective and boost your mood.
34. Have a Digital Detox
Turn off your devices for the day and focus on being present.
Read, journal, or simply enjoy the quiet.
35. Rearrange Your Space
Move furniture around or redecorate a corner of your home.
A change of scenery can feel refreshing. I’m going to convert the guest bedroom to an office. I’m excited about this project.
36. Write a List of Your Goals
Take some time to dream big and write down your goals.
Use this day to plan for the future you really want.
If you want inspiration, here’s a list of personal goals.
37 Do Yoga
Roll out a mat and stretch your body with a yoga session. It’s a wonderful way to feel connected to yourself.
38. Try a New Hairstyle
Experiment with a new hairstyle or makeup look. I love getting my hair cut every few months! I always try out new hairstyles.
Play around and have fun with your appearance.
39. Plan a Themed Dinner Night
Choose a cuisine you’ve always wanted to try and prepare a themed dinner for yourself.
From Italian pasta to Japanese sushi, make it an adventure in your kitchen.
40. Start a Gratitude Jar
Decorate a jar and write down things you’re grateful for on small slips of paper. Add to it daily or weekly and revisit them whenever you need a pick-me-up.
41. Go Stargazing
Grab a blanket, find a quiet outdoor spot, and spend time looking at the stars. Use a stargazing app to learn about constellations, or just enjoy the beauty of the night sky.
42. Create a DIY Project
Get crafty with a DIY project, like making candles, creating wall art, or upcycling an old item in your home.
I’ve found loads of ideas on Pinterest and Youtube.
Let your creativity run wild.
43. Indulge in a Beauty Treatment
Try a new beauty treatment, like a hair mask, body scrub, or even a bold makeup look. Make it a pampering session just for you.
44. Write a List of Everything You Love About Yourself
Take time to reflect on and celebrate your strengths, qualities, and accomplishments.
Write them down and keep a list of where you can see it often.
45. Go Thrift Shopping
Spend the day exploring thrift stores or antique shops.
Look for unique treasures, vintage finds, or even books to add to your collection.
Conclusion
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be reserved for couples.
It’s a day to celebrate love in all its forms, and what better way to honor it than by showing love to yourself?
Seriously, have fun!
By spending this day embracing activities that make you happy, relaxed, and fulfilled, you’re not just passing time—you’re nurturing your own sense of joy and independence.
Being single on Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to reconnect with yourself, explore your passions, and remind yourself of all the amazing things that make you who you are.
So, take this Valentine’s Day to celebrate the most important relationship you’ll ever have: the one with yourself.
Whether you’re dancing around your living room, writing in your journal, or stargazing under the night sky, remember that you are enough, just as you are.
Happy Valentine’s Day to you sweetie!
