Last Updated on August 11, 2023 by Angela Vaz
It’s a tiny lie.
He lied about his age.
It doesn’t matter if he’s younger or older than he said he was.
So, if he lied about his age, here are 5 genuine reasons why you should not forgive him.
This has happened to me, by the way – where a man lied about his age to me.
He claimed to me 5 years younger than he actually was.
I was 16; he said he was 20. He was actually 25.
It’s quite a huge age difference, and being 16, this posed a huge conundrum for me.
There is a lot more to this little lie.
And in this post, that’s what we will talk about.
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1. His age is not all he is lying about
If he is lying about his age, he is lying about much more than that.
Lying, like cheating or stealing, is compulsive behavior.
It never stops at 1 lie.
It never stops at 1 affair.
That’s just how it is.
Moreover, if you forgive him for lying about his age, tomorrow, you’ll have to forgive him for something greater.
When you choose to look over a certain habit, the person realizes he can disrespect you repeatedly.
Because he won’t hold you to a high standard.
He’ll know he’ll get away with it.
2. He is insecure
He is insecure about his age.
If he’s reduced his age or increased his age, it’s because he believed he’d have a better shot at dating you after lying.
This tells a lot about his personality.
It means he is afraid to be himself.
He will fit into any mold to please anyone – because that’s who he is.
If he is comfortable lying about his age, he will be comfortable lying about practically anything.
Insecurity is not something you want to deal with – it is something he has to deal with and fix.
This is a personal issue that he has to resolve.
This kind of behavior will also show itself in other ways.
He may be the type of person who will need a lot of convincing that you actually love him.
That’s what happened in my case.
This man was insecure and couldn’t stand me talking to other guys – he’d yell and scream and tell me not to talk to other boys.
It was honestly tiring, especially since I was in a co-ed college.
If he’s showing you other signs of insecurity – please leave. It’s just not worth it.
3. No relationship survives on lies
If you’re craving an honest, stable, loving relationship, please don’t start it like this.
No relationship should start with a lie.
It leaves a bad taste in the mouth.
And it is only the beginning of what is to come in the future.
It starts with a small lie – it will lead to bigger things.
Please know that a relationship should be built on trust and honesty for it to survive.
That’s the essential foundation for a relationship to thrive.
And if he’s lying to you at the very beginning, it’s just downright awful.
4. He is comfortable manipulating you
Think about his thought process for a minute.
He knew telling you his real age would decrease his chances of you fancying him.
So to manipulate and control you, he lied to you about his age.
If he is comfortable going so far as to disrespect your desires, then think about how much more he will do to get what he wants.
He chose to disrespect your opinion and your wants; he will do it again if you forgive him.
5. You need to respect yourself
You don’t deserve to be with someone who lies about their age.
You are worth more than that.
And it doesn’t matter if this guy is charming or kind.
He lied – and it reveals very sketchy and deceptive behavior.
Pay attention to your gut feeling – and run.
Forgiving someone who lied to you about their age might undermine your self-respect.
It’s important to prioritize your own well-being and not tolerate behavior that disrespects your boundaries.
Conclusion
I personally would not be able to date someone after they’ve broken my trust.
I don’t think you should either.
People who lie should refrain from being in relationships because they cause a lot of emotional distress to their partners.
I genuinely believe that you should not forgive him and find someone else.
You deserve so much better.
You deserve a person who is honest with you and who isn’t afraid to tell you the truth.
Your emotional health and mental well-being matter.
Don’t date someone who has already proven untrustworthy – it’s not worth the pain you’ll feel later.
Save yourself from future distress by leaving him and finding someone who can be honest with you.
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