I remember being in a relationship once where everything felt like it was almost something.
We had inside jokes, long phone calls, and flirty messages that made my heart skip.
I remember my heart pounding every time we’d go out on a date. The man was lovely.
But deep down, I always felt unsure. Like… was he really into me?
Or was I just someone he liked when he was bored or lonely?
I did have a hard time telling, to be honest.
I wasted so much time trying to decode every text and reread every word, hoping for a sign he was serious about me.
Spoiler alert: He genuinely wasn’t.
I wish someone had told me back then what I know now.
When a man is serious about you, you won’t be left wondering. I promise you this.
You won’t have to decode anything. His actions will be loud.
Clear. Consistent.
And even if he’s not a romantic movie type of guy, you’ll feel safe and wanted.
So if you’re tired of mixed signals and half-love, here are 11 things a man does when he’s genuinely serious about you.
And if you’re still in the phase of wondering why it feels so hard to find someone who’s all in, you might want to read Why Doesn’t Anyone Want to Date Me? – 13 Harsh Truths to Swallow next—it might be a little tough love, but it’s real.
1. He Makes You a Priority
Not an option.
Not a “maybe later.”
A priority.
I’ve told this to every single one of my girl friends who have doubts about whom they’re dating.
He carves out time for you even when he’s busy.
He checks in not just when it’s convenient for him, but because he wants to know how you’re doing.
If his schedule is packed, he’ll still find a way to call or see you—even if it’s just for a coffee or a quick hello.
He doesn’t make you feel like you’re asking for too much just because you want attention or connection.
You matter to him.
2. He Introduces You to His People
I know this is somewhat of a controversial opinion, but when you matter to this man, he will showcase you to his friends and family.
Because when a guy is serious, he wants to integrate you into his world.
It’s as simple as that.
You’ll meet his friends, his siblings, maybe even his dog (you laugh, but that’s real love).
He’ll want to show you off—not because you’re a trophy, but because he’s genuinely proud to have you in his life.
If he keeps you hidden or dodges the “meet my friends” moment, that’s a red flag.
A serious man wants the people he loves to meet the woman he’s growing to love.
And if you’ve been dealing with this kind of confusion more than once, Dating Advice for Single Women that Actually Works has some truths you might need to hear.
3. He Communicates Openly
He doesn’t ghost you.
He doesn’t leave you hanging.
He talks.
And not just surface-level stuff like the weather or sports.
He opens up about what he wants, how he feels, what he’s afraid of.
He checks in when he feels like something’s off between you two.
He’s not afraid of those “deep” conversations that so many people avoid.
The man I’m currently dating never shies away from tough conversations. We’ve been together for 3 years and when he knows I’m not doing well (mentally), he always checks in.
He’s never afraid to have the hard conversations – and that’s one of the reasons I love being with him.
You shouldn’t have to overthink every message.
You know where you stand with him.
4. He Respects Your Boundaries
Omg, I wish I could put this on a placard and give it to every girl I know.
Whether it’s emotional, physical, or even scheduling boundaries—he listens.
He doesn’t push you to open up before you’re ready or pressure you into anything you’re not comfortable with.
Instead, he makes you feel safe. Supported.
A serious man will never guilt-trip you for needing space, rest, or time to yourself.
Remember this please.
If you want to take a solo trip or hang out with your friends – he should actually encourage you to do so. He should never make you feel bad for hanging out without him.
5. He Plans for the Future With You
This doesn’t mean he’s proposing on the third date, but he does talk about “we” more than “I.”
He brings up trips, concerts, holidays, and even dreams that include you in them.
He’s thinking long-term—and he doesn’t hide that.
I love it when a man starts taking initiative – it makes your realize that he is serious about you.
He might ask what your five-year goals are or mention a future where you both live in the same city (or even the same home).
Sometimes, the real question isn’t just about him, but whether you feel ready for a real, healthy relationship.
If you’re unsure, How to Prepare Yourself For a Relationship & Find Love breaks it all down.
6. He Shows Up When It Matters
- You’re sick? He’s there with soup.
- Bad day at work? He sends a voice note or calls just to hear your voice.
- Important event? He puts it in his calendar and shows up on time.
Being serious about someone means being dependable.
He doesn’t flake when you need him. He leans in.
And let’s be real—if he keeps disappearing when life gets inconvenient, you don’t have to settle for that.
Please don’t settle for that.
Better guys will come along.
21 Signs He Thinks You’re Not Good Enough can help you spot the red flags before he breaks your heart.
7. He Makes You Feel Valued
This is something you need to ask yourself.
Take some time off and really think about how he makes you feel.
I want you to know that you’re not an afterthought. You’re not someone he should text only when he’s bored.
He should see your worth—and make sure you feel it.
- Does he compliment your mind, your heart, and your efforts?
- Does he thank you when you do something kind?
- Does he actually take an interest when you speak about your life? Does he ask questions? Does he remember those little details about your day-to-day life?
He should see you, all of you.
8. He’s Honest—Even When It’s Hard
This is difficult to find in a person, but yes, there are good, honest people out there. Trust me.
Being serious about someone means being real.
He doesn’t lie just to keep the peace.
If something’s wrong, he tells you. If he’s confused or stressed, he shares it.
And if your last relationship was full of secrets and manipulation, 13 Unmistakable Signs He Thinks He Owns You + What to Do might help.
9. He Supports Your Dreams
I love my current partner for this – he constantly pushes me to focus on my business and start new websites when I’m hesitating to.
He always supports me when I’m dragging my feet.
He’s not just along for the ride—he’s my biggest fan.
Whether you want to start a business, go back to school, or travel the world, he should say, “Go for it.”
He should believe in your potential.
And when you doubt yourself, he should remind you of your strength.
Remember the right guy wants to grow with you, not hold you back.
10. He Talks About Commitment
He doesn’t dodge the “What are we?” convo.
In fact, he brings it up himself.
He wants you to know you’re the only one.
He talks about being exclusive, about building something real.
Commitment doesn’t scare him—losing you does.
11. He Loves You Through Actions, Not Just Words
“I love you” is easy to say.
But when a man is serious, he proves it daily.
He’s consistent. He follows through.
So ask yourself, if his actions match his words. Again, this is something you really need to think about.
The right guy notices what matters to you and makes the effort.
He stands by you in the highs and lows.
His love isn’t just a feeling—it’s how he shows up for you.
Final Thoughts
If you’re sitting there, wondering where you stand with him… that already says something.
The truth is, when a man is serious about you, you won’t need to overanalyze.
You won’t feel anxious all the time.
You’ll feel chosen. Respected. Safe.
And deeply, deeply loved.
Because love—real love—doesn’t leave you confused.
It brings peace.
If you’re struggling with feeling alone or wondering if you’ll ever meet someone serious about you, read Struggling with singleness? What I did to combat this.
Or if you’ve been through a breakup recently and you’re trying to rebuild, How to Glow Up After a Breakup – Here’s Everything I Did will give you a step-by-step guide to getting back to you.
So if he’s doing these things, girl… he’s serious about you.
And if he’s not? You deserve someone who is.
Here are a few more posts you’ll find helpful:
How to Prepare Yourself For a Relationship & Find Love
Dating Advice for Single Women that Actually Works
How to Stop Overthinking in A Relationship before it’s Ruined
Why Doesn’t Anyone Want to Date Me? – 13 Harsh Truths to Swallow
Will I find someone better than my ex?
Struggling with singleness? What I did to combat this
How to Glow Up After a Breakup – Here’s Everything I Did
